Agape doesn’t overlook sin but covers us while we are developing our ability to discern between lust and purity; between right and wrong; between light and darkness and between eros, phileo, and agape.
Agape is other-centered, as it always seeks to act in such a way to do what is best for another. Our pride would seek to expose and gossip about the sin and misadventures of those God loves.
And above all things have fervent charity [agape] among yourselves: for charity [agape] shall cover the multitude of sins.
—1 Peter 4:8
Men must understand their wives at the spirit level if they want their lifeline to God to be connected—if they want their prayers to be heard.
Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.
Noah fell to a point of personal disgrace. When his youngest son, Ham, saw the drunken state of his father, he took delight in exposing the situation to his brothers. His brothers, however, refused to see the humor in the plight of their beloved dad and took a blanket and went in backwards to cover Noah’s exposure. The younger son came from a position of eros love, which is only self-seeking. His two brothers were at a much higher level of agape, which covered and did what was best for the person being loved. As it turns out, Ham’s reaction was of greater sin than the sin of the one he was making sport of, and it opened the door for a curse in his life. The fruit of agape to the honor of Shem and Japheth was a blessing. Choose this day blessing or curse: agape or eros.
Agape gives of itself for the benefit of the person loved.
And Noah began to be an husbandman, and he planted a vineyard: And he drank of the wine, and was drunken; and he was uncovered within his tent. And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brethren without. And Shem and Japheth took a garment, and laid it upon both their shoulders, and went backward, and covered the nakedness of their father; and their faces were backward, and they saw not their father's nakedness. And Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done unto him. And he said, Cursed be Canaan; a servant of servants shall he be unto his brethren. And he said, Blessed be the Lord God of Shem; and Canaan shall be his servant. God shall enlarge Japheth, and he shall dwell in the tents of Shem; and Canaan shall be his servant.